Lines Drawn

I have had to become firmer, to state my case, to ask for what I want because if I don't I'll get used, dictated to and forgotten about. I'm all for a peaceful life but I'm not letting him take the mick out me. He was always the poor victim and I picked up the [...]


Pen and Sword

When life throws you weird coincidences and events that give clarity and understanding to your own situation I count that as a blessing and affirmation. I was sent an email yesterday thanking me for signing up to the "pen and sword newsletter". I hadn't signed up for it. So, I unsubscribed. Today I come home [...]

Strategic Intervention This video was amazing. So helpful. Made me realise that I don't have to stay angry. This woman's husband hasd several affairs on the go too. All the same issues as me. Yet she wanted to feel more compassion towards her ex husband. I only feel pity for mine. Anger and pity. I can [...]

Self Care

Today I have decided to stay in bed all day (well, until my son get home from school). It's my only non exhausting, non active, least stimulating activity that I can do to aid my depletion. I will not feel guilty for it!

I have PTSD

I admit it. I am damaged. Was damaged. I'm still working on my recovery. I'm still processing what happened. What bomb hit me. He was right when he said I was "collateral damage". I have PTSD. I've always known I was traumatised by his actions and somewhat continue to be so. But what he does [...]


Time to firm up honey! Who am I? What do I want? How should I best approach life these days? What are my weaknesses? Do I respect myself on all matters? Do I convey who I really am? Why do I keep quiet and not voice my displeasure? What am I fearful of? All these [...]

Top 18 signs you have been dating a sociopath!!

Dating a Sociopath

It can be hard to sink in that Mr or Mrs Perfect that you have been dating is actually a sociopath. You might search the internet looking for answers. You come up with a list of traits from the DSM about sociopaths, and you question is he/she really a sociopath? You read the list, and still you are not sure, after all he/she was just so ‘nice’. Yes you have started to discover things, but you are still not sure, you are confused.

The following is top 18 traits that are red flags. Traits that show that the person you are dating could potentially be a sociopath.

1. Charismatic and charming

For the sociopath, image is everything. At least the image that he/she gives to the outside world. When you first meet, you will be bowled over at just how charismatic and charming he/she is. He will constantly flatter you…

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